Why bother with online dating

And don’t forget to let me know how it goes…Also, if her profile is lame and generic, expect her responses to your emails to be the same.Don’t be surprised when a chick whose entire profile consists solely of the phrase, “I love shopping, traveling and my dog,” doesn’t have a clever retort to your email.I may email again, saying, “If you want to know anything just ask”, etc. It’s that you probably haven’t given her a compelling reason to be.but I still get no questions in return to start a conversation. If you want to know why your email correspondence online is generally flat and falls apart after a few emails, you have to look in the mirror and take responsibility for your part in it.I also thought you were cute (4) and loved the fact that you go hiking with your brothers every summer. If you want to know anything more about me, just ask. This probably sounds incredibly nitpicky, but it’s not. I’ve got two techniques for writing first emails that I describe in Finding the One Online.If you’re going to write the same exact email as every single person on the dating site, you can’t be surprised when you get deleted quickly like junkmail. One is called Fun Fiction, in which you make up something silly based on a detail in the other person’s profile. You may think that this stuff doesn’t matter – that people only write back to the most attractive people no matter what.

You haven’t created a compelling reason why she should write back to you over all others.Wouldn’t it stand to reason that if you took the time to write something interesting and creative back to these guys, you might discover that they actually have a personality?I mean, from the majority of your emails, you sound really boring, too.The messages are carefully composed to SOUND genuinely written, but he's shotgunning. Write enough to get the meet, but not so much you scare them off.So if everything you’ve been doing in your emails is ineffective – if everything that comes naturally to you is too dull – what ARE you to do? The other is called Opinion Openers, where, instead of stating a “me, too” fact (You like Bruce Springsteen? ), you offer your opinion – in which your personality shines through (Hey, if The Boss is from New Jersey, how come he sounds more like Woody Guthrie than Tony Soprano when he sings? So while I will acknowledge that being hot and stupid is more effective than being ugly and fascinating, the truth lies somewhere in between.A great email will never make someone who doesn’t want to date you consider you, but it WILL tip the balance when someone is choosing between a dozen otherwise similar candidates.” I asked.“It made me funny in response to him,” she replied. But look at the emails you write back to the boring men.“He was so lively and engaging that I sort of had no choice but to come back with something equally witty and creative.”“So by him writing something playful and interesting to you, he actually brought out a more playful and interesting side of you? They’re just as boring as the ones that you received.Seriously, my friend, this is a very do-able technique and I’ve helped hundreds of guys (and thousands of women) master online communication.Check out my CD series if you really want to get the best results out of your online dating experience.