If you understand this, it will change how you view masculinity.” ― Mark Driscoll, “While this may look loving, when we struggle with an idol of dependence, we’re in fact not loving people as much as we’re using them to fulfill our need to belong, be liked, and be desired.
This explains why some friends and family members can be so demanding, smothering, and needy.
Service frees us to do what God wants, thereby saying no as needed.
Performance presses us toward perfectionism, where we seek to do everything just right so others will praise us.
Though there’s no mention of it on The Trinity Church’s shiny new website, Driscoll built and presided over Seattle’s controversial Mars Hill Church, and he is one of the most famous and disruptive figures in the history of the evangelical mega-church movement.
Driscoll and two other pastors started Mars Hill in 1996.
We need to be very clear that the way we do life is different than the rest of the world.” ― Mark Driscoll “On the Sabbath day, we are remembering that my relationship with God did not begin with what I've done, it is not sustained by what I do, and it is not guaranteed to the end by my effort or work.
It's impossible to be satisfied in your marriage if you don't have a standard that is biblical; that standard is always your spouse.” ― Mark Driscoll “Are you letting culture, not scripture, determine your sexuality, how you date, how you present yourself, how you engage in certain relationships with members of the opposite sex?
But the goal, center, and purpose of marriage is not self, spouse, or children.
Remember, neither your child nor your husband (or wife) should be who you worship, but instead who you worship with.” ― Mark Driscoll, “In marriage we have a duty to God, our spuses, the world, and future generations. A husband and wife need to acknowledge that when the Bible speaks of fools, it is not just speaking about other people, but about them as well. So God gives us spouses to serve as wise friends by praying with and for us, attending church with us, speaking truth, and providing Scripture along with good books and online classes, lectures, and sermons to nourish fruitfulness in our lives.” ― Mark Driscoll, “While it only takes one spouse to be friendly, it takes both spouses to be friends.
When both spouses are unfriendly, the marriage is marked by conflict and coldness.
When one spouse is friendly and the other is unfriendly, the marriage is marked by selfishness and sadness.
But when both spouses each make a deep, heartfelt covenant with God to continually seek to become a better friend, increasing love and laughter mark the marriage.” ― Mark Driscoll, “The key to understnading masculinity is Jesus Christ.