Necessity is the mother of invention when it comes to the work I do!I also advocate because Black women are at a unique dating disadvantage in America.We have layers, and like all women, we are complicated and splendid creatures.Candice: There seems to be a stronger reaction to Black men who date outside their race than Black women who do the same. But when men do the same, it’s often seen as a betrayal. Christelyn: Actually, I’ve experienced that in the reverse.Historically, Black men have been dating and marrying interracially at higher rates than Black women for the last 40 years.Since Black women have been hesitant to date interracially for so long, I do consider it “progress” that many of them are discovering that different races of men are willing to love and cherish them. Candice: Something I’ve also noticed lately is that more of my Black female friends have begun to look outside their race specifically due to their frustrations with dating Black men.Why can’t it be Black men and all men, instead of black men or no one at all? I’m not willing to keep sacrificing my sisters for the sake of the cause.I often hear the old, tired line that black folks need to work on themselves before they can mingle romantically with other races. You can still advocate for change and love your blackness if you have a non-black spouse.
No one is suggesting Black women avoid black men altogether. We’ve been trying to “work through our issues” for over a century.
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It’s time to have an honest, open discussion about interracial relationships.
Christelyn: Black women have a unique set of challenges in the dating market.
If she wants to be married, have children, etc., the numbers just aren’t in her favor to remain exclusive to Black men.