And if you don’t like what you see, you can always click on to the next profile – there is always another candidate just around the corner!
Of course, online dating wouldn’t be so popular if it didn’t work for so many people.
You’re not looking for the same things you were when you were young: you’re not typically looking to settle down and have kids, for example!
Your reasons for finding someone are often broader and more diverse; you may not even be really sure if it’s romance you’re looking for at all.
So here is my Internet dating advice from the front lines.
The promise of making it easier to find your “ideal” companion by letting you add filters to hone in on specific requirements has actually had the opposite effect, diminishing your pool to the point it becomes almost impossible to find anyone!And with such an alluring promise, it’s understandable why online dating took off so quickly.Suddenly there was a different way to find a partner, one that promised practically infinite possibilities, where an algorithm could find you the “right” person without you needing to do the hard work of ever actually talking to them in person.According to some estimates, there are over 8,000 online dating sites worldwide, and over 2,500 in the US alone.Yes, that’s just the number of different it’s no wonder that many people find online dating overwhelming!and you’d then use your own judgement about whether you liked them or not.There is increasing evidence that, in face-to-face meetings, we are subconsciously picking up clues about the suitability of future partners based on a wide variety of non-verbal information.You know that what you’re seeing isn’t an accurate representation of them, but it doesn’t stop you from judging them on it anyway.To make matters worse, most people suck at selling themselves, and do a terrible job of their profiles.No profile, no matter how well-written, could ever hope to capture the full extent of your personality.Unfortunately, when you’re reading the profiles of other people, it’s easy to forget that this rule applies to them, too.