It amounts to the same thing as far as your date is concerned.They will see the you that you’re projecting so you might as well make sure you’re projecting the best version of you, whether it’s real or not.
You can find more of her dating advice on her blog or by visiting one of her dating workshops that focus on helping people improve their dating profiles.You know you’re brilliant and lovely and that’s what counts. Any article focusing on boosting confidence, should most definitely include this little gem – fake it til you make it.When you next get rejected, you won’t even entertain the thought that it’s your fault – you’ll just know that you weren’t right for them but that’s OK. You don’t need to be at the top of your game before you go on a date, you can just give the illusion that you are.It almost doesn’t matter if you believe them or not at the beginning, the very act of saying them in your head and drowning out the inner critic will make you believe them.Initially you’ll have to make a real conscientious effort to do this, but with practice it will get easier and easier.I recall exactly how I felt that, how I acted, what I did and then I hold on to those thoughts and feelings and head out to face the world with renewed sass.Would Beyonce go out on a date worrying about how she might come across or worrying if it was going to go well? The minute you feel your confidence failing, think about what Beyonce do (or someone super confident that you admire) and you’ll feel yourself rising to the occasion.Finally, replace your inner critic’s beliefs with affirmations – turn your inner critic into your very own cheerleader.For example you could replace the above inner critic’s beliefs with the following: Every date is a new adventure and one day, you’re going to meet someone who blows you away. You’re a natural at first dates Why wouldn’t they like you, you’re brilliant.Don’t look to others for validation, just know that you’ll do the right thing for you.Your confidence will soar once you know you can rely on yourself and you don’t need to worry about what others think of you.