The closet creates a barrier between you and others like you.When I was in the closet, being close friends with another gay man was not an option — because I recognized in him something I was trying to hide in myself.There are many, many high-school kids out there in religious, homophobic homes who simply aren’t in environments where they can come out without risking being kicked out — or worse.Those kids need us, out-of-the-closet queer people. We give them hope and remind them that life gets better.
Let’s face an ugly fact here: some people can’t come out.
All things considered, it wasn’t so bad, and nothing like the horror stories I’ve heard from my peers: I had a roof over my head, good food, and no one ever laid a hand on me or kicked me out. I was 16, and I remember it being incredibly painful.
I was scared of myself, scared of my life ahead, scared of my parents, scared of the nightly Bible reading sessions with my dad following my coming out, and scared of the Sunday morning church service, after which our pastor would come shake my hand directly and look at me with his cold, glossy, damning eyes, knowing my truth that my parents had filled him in on in a religious panic.
One of the most oppressive parts of the closet is how it stifles your sex drive.
Coming out means you will finally be able to flirt and cruise to your heart’s content. When you come out of the closet today, you are only able to do so because others who came before you came out of their closets in times when it was riskier and more frightening to do so.