Fall in love only after you have come to know yourself, not because you feel insecure and think “no one loves me”, and not because you don’t get along with your parents and are anxious to leave home.Don’t let your craving for acceptance or love lead you to throw yourself at the first person who gives you a tumble or is “pliable” in physical conduct.If you take the romantic love angle too seriously, you will lose your proper place in the marital relationship and, with it, lose your dignity and your role as master of your destiny.Young men, too, often employ a trickery more harmful and more dangerous than that employed by women.The Jewish approach warns us not to “love in spite of yourself”, but to love “because of yourself”. Enter into the love relationship with your eyes open, not with your eyes closed.Don’t accept blind dates, unless you know who the potential partner is.Are his words, “I care only for what’s best for you” grounded?
[Therefore, objectivity is distorted, and the essential relationship becomes confused…are we really headed towards commitment?
Also, once the principle of ‘no contact’ has been violated, there are often no other barriers effective enough in helping two people to restrain themselves from further kinds of involvement that could lead naturally to a intimacy.
A physical relationship is an essential element in the binding together of two people in marriage.
Just prior to her marriage ceremony she removes the nidah status, in accordance with Jewish law, by immersing herself in the waters of a mikveh (a body of water used only for spiritual sanctification), and may then be approached by her husband.
As a married woman she becomes nidah once again with each onset of a menstrual period, and marital relations must then be suspended until she immerses herself, once more, in a mikveh, at least one week after the completion of each menstrual period.