There is something else going on that he has not been straight with you about, I think.
He may be continuing a relationship with this other woman (which seems likely given that he is living with her).
There is a phrase to the effect of "voting with your feet" meaning that how you act is a better indicator of how you truly feel versus what you say.
"Talk is cheap" is another cliched way to express this sentiment.
Either way, I think he is making excuses to not act the way he says he wants to act.I don’t see anything wrong with your insisting, gently but firmly, that he do just that.I think if you don’t insist on him choosing you (within some defined amount of time) that you will indeed be selling yourself short.Come to grips with the situation The first step to getting back with your ex-husband is to come to grips with the situation.Accept that there has been a break-up, which may be a separation of a divorce and no matter whose fault it was.But this does not seem possible anymore due to the fact that Omar said in an interview that he had moved on and there was another lady in his life.I have a really messed up situation that I hope some sort of enlightenment can help.If you keep struggling against reality and refuse to accept it, you are losing out even before you have begun.Control your emotions The break-up of a marriage is an exceedingly traumatic experience, more so if it has been forced on you.Well, he left her saying that he made the biggest mistake of his life leaving me and our son but moved out into his own home. He lost his job and couldnt make it so he asked her if he could move back in just for a bit to get things together then he will be gone again.He didn’t ask me to move in because at the time we werent talking, I was still upset about the whole situation, divorce, etc.