So one of the only ways you might meet them is from an online platform.
It's like being at Hogwarts and only hanging out with people in your house, unaware that there are cool folks in other houses, too!
I never dated in high school, so I figured I’d date in college. But aside from missing (in retrospect) obvious signals for a dude I had a bit of a crush on, and getting asked out by a dude I barely knew, my dating life in college was pretty non-existent.
It wasn’t until after college that I started to seriously try dating, and I did that by joining some free online dating services and apps.
While most people doing this online dating thing are totally normal and aren't going to hurt you, it never hurts to make safety a priority.
That is going to ideally attract like minded people and detract people who aren't about that life. Also, think about how exciting it would be to find the profile of a guy or girl who has a ton of the same interests as you. So tell as much about who you are as you feel comfortable with!
This is particularly important if you're a straight girl because you've been socialized to have men approach you, for men to ask you out, for men to make the first move. I messaged all of my online dating matches first and it was totally painless. Don't just wait for things to happen to you or else you'll just end up with an inbox full of messages from dudes you don't have an interest in instead of replies from the ones you're actually interested in.
It's a little scary, yes, but the results can be totally worth it.
By the way, dudes can feel a lot of pressure to make the first move; they get shy, too!