Plus, many big sites have been hesitant to allow independent researchers to look at their matching algorithms in depth.Whether or not the algorithms work, it's perhaps even more important if online daters they work.Of the 13 online daters I talked to for this article, only one believes algorithms can make successful matches. “I don’t believe that an algorithm can match me up, and I don’t want to match me up,” said Jason Feifer.A senior editor at Fast Company, Feifer met his wife Jennifer Miller, a freelance journalist and author, through Ok Cupid after narrowing his search criteria to two requirements: "Jewish" and "journalist."Feifer and Miller told me they didn’t start using Ok Cupid with the hopes of finding their soulmates.Miller agreed, saying: “And it accomplished what I wanted to do, which was go on a lot of dates."While online dating sites give people another tool to find potential mates, the dates themselves are not very different, other than maybe knowing a bit more about the other person before officially meeting.“It’s no different than if you meet someone on the street.Experts say online dating sites see a huge traffic increase between Christmas and Valentine’s Day.
There’s just a disconnect between what social science says is actually possible, and what the sites say they can do,” said Slater.
“Maybe it’s not the best means to the end of finding the best relationship, but it gives people a way to do something about their situation.
It may or may not be the best shot at finding what you want, but it’s doesn’t mean it will never happen.
These sites can serve as a way to practice those skills and build up self-confidence, too.
“[Sites like] Ok Cupid give people a mechanism to combat the anxiety of being single,” said Ana B., 24 of New York City.